The selfie. The word was first heard on an Australian newscast in 2002 but did not soar in popularity until 2012. Now you can not log into social media without seeing a barrage of selfies. So what IS a selfie?
Merriam-Webster defines a selfie as:
noun self·ie ˈsel-fē
Definition of selfie – an image of oneself taken by oneself using a digital camera especially for posting on social network
There are a lot of varying opinions on selfies. Some view them as narcissistic pleas for attention. Some view as a means of personal expression. For others, like me, selfies are a method to document our progress and to learn to be comfortable with our bodies. Body positivity is a learned trait. Such like hating our bodies is learned, we must also learn to love ourselves.
I am on a journey in embracing body positivity myself. I am not where I want to be but I am enjoying the process to get there.
So do I take selfies? Yup. You bet I do. One might be thinking… “girl, at 43 years old you have no business flaunting your selfieness like a 20 year old”. Well you may be right, but…
- There is at least a decade of my life that is non-documented with photographic proof. Over TEN years where I was too uncomfortable with the way I looked to be included in pictures.
- When I am asked for “before” pictures from my heaviest weight I have very few to choose from.
- I also have very few pictures of myself with my family and my son from when he was little. Let me repeat that…there are almost no pictures of myself with my son as a toddler or most of his childhood.
- No vacation pictures.
- Absolutely nothing in pictures that documents my twenties and most of my thirties .
All because I thought I was too fat and ugly to be in pictures.
How sad is that????
I have very recently learned to love who I am and to embrace my body and the way I look. Society tells me that I am smart so I don;t need to be pretty. And although I do not meet the classical definition of beautiful I am finally realizing that I am. I also am blessed and love my life right now. Is it perfect, heck no. Far from it. But gosh, being a beautiful mess is so much a part of who I am. I am on a journey which takes me through hills and valleys. AND I WANT TO CAPTURE IT ALL.
So I shall selfie the gym pics, the running pics, the pics with my nephew, my friends. I shall selfie it all.
I want to be able to sit back as a very old woman, look at my FB memories, and giggle with glee. Giggle because I am a woman who LIVED. Lived out loud, lived with messiness, lived with love, lived with enthusiasm, lived with abandon, lived in spite of fear, lived to the best she could. All documented with tons of goofy selfies that hopefully convey this spirit.
With some pics of other people thrown in there too of course. A true alpha female loves her pack dearly.
So no matter how you see yourself… take the selfies, take the group pictures, and LIVE. (Oh and by the way, if you are reading this then you are beautiful. You are worthy. You are enough. So be in the pictures!!)
Do you selfie? Why or why not?